The Beauty Of Truth - by bruce potter

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The Beauty Of Truth - March 2006

CaN YoU bE JuSt FrIeNdS?!

March 31st 2006 04:47

My brother always told me a girl and guy can never be just friends if they are single (and straight) which I completely disagree with especially since my best friend is a guy. But the real question is can they be friends without onsidering the possibility of being more? Now this is something that I don't think will work. This consideration period may be as quick as when you met the person for the first time,

you knew the relationship was going to stop at a friendship. Or it could be a long contemplation when u test the waters a little bit and see if u can cross that line but realize u can't. Either way, the key to all of this is making sure both parties involved are on the same level. Otherwise the line may be clear in one persons mind but blurred in the others and eventually someone gets hurt without the intention being there. So make sure you're open with each other and enjoy because some of my best friendships are with guys that I would take a bullet for but could never date..

*Alanna*

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fRiEnDs WiTh LiMiTeD BeNeFiTs

March 29th 2006 22:25

Being a single mature lady, I find myself needing what I like to call a "refresher" of the more physical side of a relationship without all the strings attached. Now I'm not talking about sex because I still believe in only "making love" and to do that you should be with a very special person. (Or at least someone you could see yourself in a relationship with for more than a day); but a few innocent makeout sessions, now that I can go for! This being said, I think every person needs what I like to call a "friend with limited benefits". I know what you are thinking, what is a friend with limited benefits? Well let me explain. This is a person who you get along with, you aren't really interested in anything more than a friendship, but he/she supplies you with a less dangerous physical fix (like making out) so that your mind can get back on track. Because let's be honest, it hard to concentrate on important things like school or work when all you can think about is how long it's been since you have been kissed by someone outside of your family.

But like any other good thing, there is a catch! See this friendship is a lot harder to find than what it sounds because the amount of trust, rules, and barriers that is needed to prevent mixed feelings and a broken relationship makes it a very risky move to make . However I do think if more people had this type of friendship there would be a lot less people who settle and give into built up temptation. Just think about it how many times you thought to yourself, "I really don't like this person but it's been so I'm not going to be picky this time". Now just to have it out there I don't have this friend with limited benefits yet but after deep consideration it's definitely on my to find list...