bruce potterHow do you know you have met the one?
October 19th 2008 20:52
How can you be sure you have met someone that is right for you? Here are some of the signs that I think a relationship is good.
1. There are no if onlys.
If only he did not smoke or take drugs, if only we were not so short on cash. If only I did not talk or laugh so loud, he would like me (that happened to me, a guy I dated briefly hated my loud laugh). Some people think that if one annoying factor were removed the relationship would have real potential.
So what happens when that person gives up smoking, booze or tones down their laugh? Does the relationship suddenly become perfect? Unfortunately not, if you are waiting for the right circumstances to be happy then you are not in the right relationship.
2. You can be yourself around the other person.
You do not have to be someone you are not, in order to impress the other person, because just being yourself is enough to impress him or her. So go on laugh as loud as you want, if they don’t like it they can bugger off. If you try to change you will both end unhappy.
The flipside of this I suppose, is if you meet someone you want to change for, then that is ok. The key is you – you have to want to.
3. Everything about them is interesting
When you are into someone, you really want to know about all the details of their lives, including tales of their childhood and looking through old photographs.
If someone is into you, they want to hear about your day at work, everything that happened etc.
4. You have similar priorities in life
Do you work so you have enough money to party? If you are, a relationship with someone that wants to settle down is probably not going to work. You need to be working together to achieve the same things in life.
The saying goes, to meet your prince or princess you need to kiss many frogs, and I agree. I don’t think you need to be with someone for five years to be sure if they are right for you. By dating lots of inappropriate people, you learn to identify traits you can’t live with quickly and therefore learn to move on quickly.
Do you believe in the one? If so how do you know when you have found them?
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