Sara DobsonWas there really a sexual revolution in the 60s?
November 13th 2008 22:21
The 60s, the pill was invented, women were liberated, and free love flowed. Or did it? Have we moved on from the old stereotypes or “good girls don’t,” men are studs, and women are slags?
On average men claim to have had 11 sexual partners, and women claim to have 6. So why the discrepancy in numbers? Is it there are more men having homosexual sex? That may explain some of the differences, but I still think a majority of the time a man is having sex, it is with a woman.
Most of my female friends in their mid 30s have had as many, if not more sexual partners than men of the same age. So what is the real reason for the discrepancy in numbers? Well in my opinion, it is good old-fashioned lying. Men rounding the number of sexual conquests up (because this will make them a stud), and women rounding their numbers down (so that people do not think they are a tart).
Paula Hall a relationship expert for Relate services believes the reason men inflate the figures and women deflate them is because we are not as open minded about these things as we would like to believe. Hall says that in her practice, she works with both adolescents and adults – and in both cases, people regardless of age, still prescribe to the old adage, men who get off with a number of women are players, while the women are slag’s.
With women marrying later in life and focussing on their careers first before finding someone to settle down with, are we supposed to be staying celibate until we find that someone special? Are we supposed to have no fun while waiting for Mr Right?
Worse still, was the Sex and the City series a lie? I for one do not think so, given that I, and so many women I know, loved it because we could relate to it. We have all dated a small willy guy and a big willy guy, a premature ejaculator, a Mr Big commitment phobe. Even prissy Charlotte had more than seven sexual partners.
So is that the sexual revolution only touched a small number of women, while the majority of people are still stuck in the days of studs and sluts? What do you think?
On average men claim to have had 11 sexual partners, and women claim to have 6. So why the discrepancy in numbers? Is it there are more men having homosexual sex? That may explain some of the differences, but I still think a majority of the time a man is having sex, it is with a woman.
Most of my female friends in their mid 30s have had as many, if not more sexual partners than men of the same age. So what is the real reason for the discrepancy in numbers? Well in my opinion, it is good old-fashioned lying. Men rounding the number of sexual conquests up (because this will make them a stud), and women rounding their numbers down (so that people do not think they are a tart).
Paula Hall a relationship expert for Relate services believes the reason men inflate the figures and women deflate them is because we are not as open minded about these things as we would like to believe. Hall says that in her practice, she works with both adolescents and adults – and in both cases, people regardless of age, still prescribe to the old adage, men who get off with a number of women are players, while the women are slag’s.
With women marrying later in life and focussing on their careers first before finding someone to settle down with, are we supposed to be staying celibate until we find that someone special? Are we supposed to have no fun while waiting for Mr Right?
Worse still, was the Sex and the City series a lie? I for one do not think so, given that I, and so many women I know, loved it because we could relate to it. We have all dated a small willy guy and a big willy guy, a premature ejaculator, a Mr Big commitment phobe. Even prissy Charlotte had more than seven sexual partners.
So is that the sexual revolution only touched a small number of women, while the majority of people are still stuck in the days of studs and sluts? What do you think?
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