Sara DobsonWhat's your emotional attachment style?
September 21st 2008 05:36
"All the guys I meet are bastards.” “All the girls I meet are nutters.” “Why do I keep getting dumped?”
Are these the thoughts going through your head all the time?
Do you find yourself meeting less than ideal partners? Has it occurred to you that it might be your actions undermining your relationships, not theirs?
Relationships can be the cause of some of the most painful transitions in your life. By experiencing many different relationships, you learn about yourself and the way you want to interact with others.
Wouldn’t it be great if we can experience some of these relationships online, to save ourselves the heartache and disappointment in real life?
Researchers at the University of Illinois had this in mind when they designed a quiz based on the choose your own adventure books that were so popular in the 70s. Researchers took subjects through three variations of a virtual relationship to see how attachment styles (secure or insecure) affect the way we respond in relationships.
When taking the quiz you get one of three possible scenarios: a visit to the fictional partner's parents, a workweek from hell, and an illness. At various junctures, the participant is asked to make a key choice. A secure and understanding choice triggers a more harmonious response.
At the end you are told you attachment style. I thought it was very interesting, but I think the major flaw in this virtual relationship test is, lack of emotional attachment to your virtual partner when making your decisions. Still it is worth checking out yourself.
If you want to try it yourself, click here.
Are these the thoughts going through your head all the time?
Do you find yourself meeting less than ideal partners? Has it occurred to you that it might be your actions undermining your relationships, not theirs?
Relationships can be the cause of some of the most painful transitions in your life. By experiencing many different relationships, you learn about yourself and the way you want to interact with others.
Wouldn’t it be great if we can experience some of these relationships online, to save ourselves the heartache and disappointment in real life?
Researchers at the University of Illinois had this in mind when they designed a quiz based on the choose your own adventure books that were so popular in the 70s. Researchers took subjects through three variations of a virtual relationship to see how attachment styles (secure or insecure) affect the way we respond in relationships.
When taking the quiz you get one of three possible scenarios: a visit to the fictional partner's parents, a workweek from hell, and an illness. At various junctures, the participant is asked to make a key choice. A secure and understanding choice triggers a more harmonious response.
At the end you are told you attachment style. I thought it was very interesting, but I think the major flaw in this virtual relationship test is, lack of emotional attachment to your virtual partner when making your decisions. Still it is worth checking out yourself.
If you want to try it yourself, click here.
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