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General Love Advice - Love Mate

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August 17th 2006 03:30
So are you one of those girls that have a criterion list for the guy of your dreams? I know i do, until now. Just last night over dinner, my girl friend and i were brooding over how unsuccessful our love life was and is, and that maybe the whole list deal is just not worth having.

Everywhere we look there would be someone who would encourage us to find Mr. Right. Friends say "never settle for second best". Hollywood airs numerous shows that keep the Prince-Charming dreaming alive. The Internet pop up propmises of romance at the click of a mouse.

The hope of having the Perfect Guy just seem so unreachable and having a list of criterion isn't much of a help. So should everyone throw their list out their window and settle for second best? Certainly not. Ditching our list doesn't mean giving up any standards. It only means that if you were to go on a date, you should look at him/her as a person and not as an employee who has to meet all the various criterion set out.


So the next time you go on a date, look past all the qualities that used to be on the list and try to get to know his/her heart. It would be a challenge, but hey, without any challenge there is no excitment is there?

Good luck...
Cher
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LoVe.. A sEcReT sOcIeTy

May 18th 2006 09:51
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Being in love is like being part of a secret society. You never know what goes on inside until you are a member. Being in love is truly amazing but this is only the tip of the iceberg. Love WILL make you do things you said you never would do or put up with. Love hurts because there's no rule that says love is a two way street and sometimes you may give your all to someone but get nothing in return. Love doesn’t always conquer all. Your job, past, distance, and lack of time are some things that may prove to be to strong for your love that would otherwise blossom in another circumstance. Most of all love isn’t true until it has been tested. Only then will you know how strong and deep it goes. This test, whatever form it may come in, is what decides whether you truly love someone or if you are with them because nothing better has come your way. But the best thing about love that everyone says and is so true is that in the end.. all the heartbreak, the obstacles, the tears.. it'll all be worth it when you find that one..
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ArE yOu EnOuGh?

May 13th 2006 13:19
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A common thing that most people say when they like someone is no matter what they want the best for that person. It just so happens that they feel the best thing for that person is themselves. But what if this isn’t true? What if the person you care about and have feelings for is the perfect person for you but you aren’t the perfect person for them? Is it fair of you to try to steal their heart knowing they deserve so much better than what u can offer them? Don’t get me wrong.. a person should never lower their standards but at the same time you should keep your standards at a level where u can give back the same amount you are asking for. If you want a guy or girl who is giving, intelligent, and romantic then u should be prepared to give the same thing in return because that’s what they deserve. If you honestly want a person to have the best and you know you can’t give that to them then maybe it’s time to let go..

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He'S jUsT nOt ThAt InTo YoU!

May 4th 2006 09:44
I don't know if anyone saw the Oprah episode awhile ago with Greg Behrendt, a former star on Sex and the City and the author of the book, He's Just Not that Into You, but it really was a must see for any girl who is unsure how a guy feels about her. The book is full of stories of girls trying to figure out the mixed messages being sent by the guys they like. Although each story is different, the ending is always the same... he's just not that into you.

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Being a girl, I think we tend to overanalyze guys' reactions, trying to find the hidden feelings for us that just isn't there. Guys aren't always blunt with their feelings, but trust me if they like you, there are certain thngs they won't do. They won't take weeks to call you, only contact you through text messages, cancel plans with you, ignore you when he is with his guys, etc. If they are doing these things, you have to face the fact that they just aren't that into you. I know, we think that if the guy doesn't like us, then he should just make it easy and say so. But it is hard for any decent person to tell a person straight to their face "I really don't like you". No one in their right mind wants to hurt someone else's feelings. It is much easier to try to send out indirect messges or avoiding the person in hopes of them getting the hint.
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LoVe Or HaTe WhIcH iS eAsIeR?

April 18th 2006 09:56
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Why is it easier to say you hate someone than it is to say you love them? You can get pissed off at someone and in the heat of the moment it’s so easy to say "screw you" or something like that. But when you are in the heat of the moment with someone you care for.. that moment when it’s just you and them and sparks are flying everywhere.. you can’t move your lips to say what you feel. I guess it’s the fear behind the love that keeps it from rolling off your tongue. When you dislike someone you don’t care if they do or don’t dislike you back. But love on the other hand, nothing feels worst than loving someone who could care less about you (believe me I know). Then again why hold back? What better thing is there to take a chance on than the person you care for? The same way love can be the worst experience you go through, it can be the best. And there is no better way to make someone's day than to look them in the eyes and say "I love you"...
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DoN't LeT rEaL LoVe PaSs YoU bY!

April 7th 2006 13:29

We all have someone in our lives that is there through thick n thin;
always there to listen, to cry on, to make you laugh, and always willing to forgive you when you make a mistake. What I don’t understand is how people can have someone like this in their life that would do anything for them, and yet they don’t show their appreciation. I'm not saying you have to buy them all these gifts or constantly tell them how much they mean, but show that you care. Don't put that person in a position where they have to assume.
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