bruce potterHow do jockeys get dates? (1)
July 7th 2009 13:06
Awake?
A question for the ladies – A good sense of humour; a steady career; a loving approach to children; a patient attitude with in-laws; a sense of culture and a lack of interest in binge drinking – are all qualities women search for in a man. With that being the case, how many of you have been out with men shorter than you? Surely at least six foot tall should be the first of your priorities, as it’s fairly difficult to train men to be tall.
Or is it?
I attended a wedding some years ago where the groom, under instruction from his wife to be, wore three inch Cuban heel boots or “Lifts” as they’re sometimes known. I later learnt that this was because she was insisting that he look significantly taller than her in the photos.
Then I learnt that there was some negotiating that needed to be done to get through what might have been BootGate. The bride was insistent that he wore the heels to the point of “If you don’t, the wedding’s off” type thing.
The groom was disgruntled, but chose to accept peace as a preferable outcome to canceling all the invites, the venue, the flowers, etc.
His view was that he thought he was tall enough to be her husband, so why should he pretend he wasn’t just for the souvenirs? It was a view I highly concurred with, and whilst it would have been foolish to call off the nuptials just for a pair of lifts, I thought it was a difficult way to start a hopefully lifetime partnership
If you’re sensing some bitterness about this subject you’d be right. As a man blessed with duck’s disease, or more to the point, cursed with being five foot eight in a six foot four world, I’ve regularly come across this heightism and I rail fruitlessly against it.
I’m still yet to have it explained with any real clarity why a woman needs to have a partner who is taller than her.
Women are, by and large, much more appreciative of a man having talents other than physical. If they weren’t, how on earth does Keith Richards or Mick Jagger or Billy Connolly or any other relatively ugly man get a date? And I think this is a virtue on women’s part. And it’s a contrasting virtue with men who largely fall in love through the eyes, rather than the ears.
So why is it then that this virtue doesn’t carry to assessing a man’s suitability through his height, or lack therof?
A question for the ladies – A good sense of humour; a steady career; a loving approach to children; a patient attitude with in-laws; a sense of culture and a lack of interest in binge drinking – are all qualities women search for in a man. With that being the case, how many of you have been out with men shorter than you? Surely at least six foot tall should be the first of your priorities, as it’s fairly difficult to train men to be tall.
Or is it?
I attended a wedding some years ago where the groom, under instruction from his wife to be, wore three inch Cuban heel boots or “Lifts” as they’re sometimes known. I later learnt that this was because she was insisting that he look significantly taller than her in the photos.
Then I learnt that there was some negotiating that needed to be done to get through what might have been BootGate. The bride was insistent that he wore the heels to the point of “If you don’t, the wedding’s off” type thing.
The groom was disgruntled, but chose to accept peace as a preferable outcome to canceling all the invites, the venue, the flowers, etc.
His view was that he thought he was tall enough to be her husband, so why should he pretend he wasn’t just for the souvenirs? It was a view I highly concurred with, and whilst it would have been foolish to call off the nuptials just for a pair of lifts, I thought it was a difficult way to start a hopefully lifetime partnership
If you’re sensing some bitterness about this subject you’d be right. As a man blessed with duck’s disease, or more to the point, cursed with being five foot eight in a six foot four world, I’ve regularly come across this heightism and I rail fruitlessly against it.
I’m still yet to have it explained with any real clarity why a woman needs to have a partner who is taller than her.
Women are, by and large, much more appreciative of a man having talents other than physical. If they weren’t, how on earth does Keith Richards or Mick Jagger or Billy Connolly or any other relatively ugly man get a date? And I think this is a virtue on women’s part. And it’s a contrasting virtue with men who largely fall in love through the eyes, rather than the ears.
So why is it then that this virtue doesn’t carry to assessing a man’s suitability through his height, or lack therof?
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