bruce potterWere we in the same relationship?
September 26th 2008 01:56
Have you ever had one of those relationships, that you thought were pretty crap, and the other person thought was the best ever?
When I was 18 (that is a long time ago I have done that many years again!), I dated a guy I worked with, let’s call him Mr Egocentric.
I was young, and the Mr Egocentric was an arrogant tosser, the relationship was crap, and we eventually broke up, at that time, I was a whole 19 years old.
He got married a couple of years later, but that did not stop him showing up in my life every couple of years. Usually when he had bought a new car, or new boat, or wanted to tell me how successful he was. Do not get me wrong, I politely listened, but certainly did not encourage him in any way.
When he tracked me down about five years ago, through find-a-kiwi, (he was married and I was newly separated), I asked him why he kept calling me. I was shocked by his answer, he said, “Because I think that you are one my soul mates. I think our biggest problem is we met too young when we hadn’t experienced life.”
I did not know what to say. We certainly had more problems than our age, how about, we argued all the time for starters. Never mind you were constantly ogling other women, and snogging girls in nightclubs for a dare.....
I didn’t say any of those things though, I just “Oh really? How’s your wife?”
Then I spent four years wandering the world, and every now and then, I would get an email saying. “Hi! What are you up to? Cheers Mr Egocentric” (accept he did not call himself that). I ignored them.
The most recent contact I got from him was a month back; he obviously thought that I had spent the last five years on my own waiting for him to come back on the market. His email read, “Hi, (my wife) ran off with my work colleague, she is a nasty piece of work that one. Any way I thought I would have some fun. You look like you are having fun are you still in London, I might come over.”
Well I have to say my first thought was, “why didn’t she leave you sooner.” He used to tell me how he left her at home when he went clubbing. Used to chat up girls, and snog them because his mate offered him $10. He used to tell me his wife did not mind she thought it was funny. My guess is she did not find it funny.
Instead of saying all that I just emailed him and said, I moved to Sydney two years ago, met someone had a baby and got married earlier this year.”
His response, “Oh my god you’re a mum.”
Anyway, his plans were dashed again. It got me thinking though, he was present during all those arguments, how did he ever get the impression that I was his soul mate?
How can somebody be so deluded about a relationship or themselves for that matter? Maybe arguing breaking up and not talking for hours was his idea of fun?
When I was 18 (that is a long time ago I have done that many years again!), I dated a guy I worked with, let’s call him Mr Egocentric.
I was young, and the Mr Egocentric was an arrogant tosser, the relationship was crap, and we eventually broke up, at that time, I was a whole 19 years old.
He got married a couple of years later, but that did not stop him showing up in my life every couple of years. Usually when he had bought a new car, or new boat, or wanted to tell me how successful he was. Do not get me wrong, I politely listened, but certainly did not encourage him in any way.
When he tracked me down about five years ago, through find-a-kiwi, (he was married and I was newly separated), I asked him why he kept calling me. I was shocked by his answer, he said, “Because I think that you are one my soul mates. I think our biggest problem is we met too young when we hadn’t experienced life.”
I did not know what to say. We certainly had more problems than our age, how about, we argued all the time for starters. Never mind you were constantly ogling other women, and snogging girls in nightclubs for a dare.....
I didn’t say any of those things though, I just “Oh really? How’s your wife?”
Then I spent four years wandering the world, and every now and then, I would get an email saying. “Hi! What are you up to? Cheers Mr Egocentric” (accept he did not call himself that). I ignored them.
The most recent contact I got from him was a month back; he obviously thought that I had spent the last five years on my own waiting for him to come back on the market. His email read, “Hi, (my wife) ran off with my work colleague, she is a nasty piece of work that one. Any way I thought I would have some fun. You look like you are having fun are you still in London, I might come over.”
Well I have to say my first thought was, “why didn’t she leave you sooner.” He used to tell me how he left her at home when he went clubbing. Used to chat up girls, and snog them because his mate offered him $10. He used to tell me his wife did not mind she thought it was funny. My guess is she did not find it funny.
Instead of saying all that I just emailed him and said, I moved to Sydney two years ago, met someone had a baby and got married earlier this year.”
His response, “Oh my god you’re a mum.”
Anyway, his plans were dashed again. It got me thinking though, he was present during all those arguments, how did he ever get the impression that I was his soul mate?
How can somebody be so deluded about a relationship or themselves for that matter? Maybe arguing breaking up and not talking for hours was his idea of fun?
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Have you ever had one of those relationships, that you thought were pretty crap, and the other person thought was the best ever? I've been working on that question for a couple of years. Maybe it means you had different perspectives??????