bruce potterWhat is the real meaning of sex appeal?
August 17th 2008 09:22
Sex appeal, it is a powerful thing, we know it when we see it, but can we describe it?
How many times have you been on a date with someone you thought was very hot to look at, and then been bored before the end of the first course, because they are not too bright or they are rude to the waiters.
Instead of being so excited you want to rush home and get them into bed, you want to shovel down your dinner quickly so you can get away.
On the other hand, how many times have you been out with a group of mates and, Mr or Ms Pleasant Looking across the table is suddenly the most desirable person in the room.
Sex appeal it would seem, has nothing to do with looks, so what is the x-factor? It’s just something that makes you want to be with them.
So what do you need to do to get sex appeal? Deep down we all want to find someone who relates to us on all levels, mind, body and soul. So we need to make sure all three are giving off the message we want.
Let’s start with the body. This is only a small part of sex appeal, but it is often the first thing somebody notices. So, there is no harm in taking care of yourself, getting a good haircut and staying reasonably fit. Personal hygiene is a must so make sure you shower and clean your teeth, (this may seem obvious but I have been on one or two dates with men that haven't used deoderant or had bad breath). Being confident in the way you look helps you feel better about yourself.
More important than looks is intelligence, and not just IQ. I am talking about your whole openness to learning new things and having new experiences. So get out and do things you have wanted to do or learn a new skill. Keep your mind active. If you want to attract an intelligent partner, you need to be able to keep them interested so keep your mind sharp.
The most important part of sex appeal though is your soul, it is the essence of who you are. In order to improve your soul, you really get to know yourself on a much deeper level than what you look like. Think about other things that are good about you. Perhaps you are creative or generous.
Stop negative thoughts as soon as they pop into your head, work out a strategy to deal with them such as saying nobody is perfect. Every time you have a negative thought, pay yourself a compliment immediately.
Spend time alone doing things you really want to do. Take a risk, and do things that would otherwise scare you, such as going to a movie or for a coffee on your own. Travel by yourself.
Once you love yourself and are confident in your own company other people will also enjoy being in your company.
There are so many people, both men and women, that spend a lot of time making sure they look attractive on the outside, but neglect their mind and soul. These people have no problem finding potential partners but often the relationships are superficial. If a relationship is to last then it needs to be built on the whole package, mind body and soul.
How many times have you been on a date with someone you thought was very hot to look at, and then been bored before the end of the first course, because they are not too bright or they are rude to the waiters.
Instead of being so excited you want to rush home and get them into bed, you want to shovel down your dinner quickly so you can get away.
On the other hand, how many times have you been out with a group of mates and, Mr or Ms Pleasant Looking across the table is suddenly the most desirable person in the room.
So what do you need to do to get sex appeal? Deep down we all want to find someone who relates to us on all levels, mind, body and soul. So we need to make sure all three are giving off the message we want.
Let’s start with the body. This is only a small part of sex appeal, but it is often the first thing somebody notices. So, there is no harm in taking care of yourself, getting a good haircut and staying reasonably fit. Personal hygiene is a must so make sure you shower and clean your teeth, (this may seem obvious but I have been on one or two dates with men that haven't used deoderant or had bad breath). Being confident in the way you look helps you feel better about yourself.
More important than looks is intelligence, and not just IQ. I am talking about your whole openness to learning new things and having new experiences. So get out and do things you have wanted to do or learn a new skill. Keep your mind active. If you want to attract an intelligent partner, you need to be able to keep them interested so keep your mind sharp.
The most important part of sex appeal though is your soul, it is the essence of who you are. In order to improve your soul, you really get to know yourself on a much deeper level than what you look like. Think about other things that are good about you. Perhaps you are creative or generous.
Stop negative thoughts as soon as they pop into your head, work out a strategy to deal with them such as saying nobody is perfect. Every time you have a negative thought, pay yourself a compliment immediately.
Spend time alone doing things you really want to do. Take a risk, and do things that would otherwise scare you, such as going to a movie or for a coffee on your own. Travel by yourself.
Once you love yourself and are confident in your own company other people will also enjoy being in your company.
There are so many people, both men and women, that spend a lot of time making sure they look attractive on the outside, but neglect their mind and soul. These people have no problem finding potential partners but often the relationships are superficial. If a relationship is to last then it needs to be built on the whole package, mind body and soul.
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